2nd time around

I’m not sure if it is the same if you have your children close together, but because mine are nearly four years apart, I had forgotten a lot when I had my second child! These are some of my ‘forgets’:
Baby wipes NEVER come out one at a time (it doesn’t matter what the brand is). So you are usually trying to hold the squirming baby down with one hand, trying to pull ONE wipe out, and about ten come out all joined together! Eventually you are trying to use your teeth to break them apart, and trying not to get poo all over the new nappy or the baby’s clothes, or your hand (because that smell takes forever to get off!)
It is very difficult to button up a babygro in the dark (why hasn’t someone invented glow in the dark press studs?) You inevitably miss one or start with the wrong one and are so desperate to get the baby back to sleep and in the cot, that you leave it however it gets done. I did hear about a dad once, who put the baby’s arms in the leg holes and vice versa! That mom must have got quite a surprise the next morning!
You can never have enough dummies! I have lost count of the time I have spent searching for a dummy in the house, especially at night – and we had glow in the dark ones! There can be half a dozen dummies in the house, but when you are desperate to find one, they have all gone AWOL!
(I was on my way to drop my kids off at school one morning and when we reached the youngest’s daycare, I realised he didn’t have his dummy. I remembered he had asked if he could wind down his window earlier, and figured he may have thrown the dummy out the open window. So I drove back the way we had come, keeping my eyes peeled on the road and amazingly saw it lying in the middle of the road near our house! I pulled over, got out the car to retrieve it, but with the WORST timing possible, a double cab came around the corner and drove over it! I could have cried! Luckily I had a spare one at home we could go and fetch)
For some strange reason (I suspect it was a lack of sleep), I somehow thought you had to make sure a little boy’s winkie was facing up when you put his nappy on! (It is supposed to face down OF COURSE!) Soon thereafter, when his babygro was wet, I realised my mistake…I only did that once!
But there were also good things that I had forgotten:

How their tiny hand fits around your finger
That baby smell (I used to breathe it in like it was youth elixer!)
How they feel curled up against your chest
The way everything is new for them
How exciting it is when they smile, laugh, sit, crawl and walk for the first time – and all the other firsts!
The amount of love that you feel, when they put that baby in your arms for the first time
I’m sure there are plenty of other things that I could have listed, but I am highly affected by what is commonly known as ‘porridge brain’ (and yes, it gets worse after each child). Make sure you enjoy each moment with your children, because it goes by in the blink of an eye.
“A mother’s love is whole, no matter how many times it’s divided” (author unknown)


Recipe for today
(today’s recipe had to be something ‘chocolatey’, no explanations necessary!)


250g Stork bake
1/2 cup sugar
180g dark chocolate
5 eggs
1 cup flour
5 flat teaspoons baking powder (no, it’s not a misprint!)

1 cup sugar
1 cup water

180g whole nut chocolate
60 ml milk

Preheat the oven to 180 degrees Celsius and grease a ring cake tin. Put the margarine, 1/2 cup sugar and the chocolate in a glass bowl and put in the microwave for 2 minutes. Take out and stir until the ingredients are combined. Whisk in the eggs, gently, one at a time. Sift in the flour and baking powder and gently fold in. Pour into the cake tin and bake for 30 minutes. While it is baking, put the 1 cup sugar and water in a pot and heat until the sugar is dissolved. Pour over the cake as soon as it comes out the oven. Leave in the tin to cool and then invert the cake onto a plate when cold. Melt the whole nut chocolate with the milk, stir until mixed and pour over the top of the cake.

Author: Mel Martin

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